Absence is to love what wind is to fire; it extinguishes the small, it enkindles the great.”
Comte de Bussy-Rabutin
Histoire Amoureuse des Gaules “Maximes d’Amours”
“You were right about that tree thing, the love tree, or whatever you called it. I am not ready to let the tree die. MaryAnne and I have given each other the best of ourselves and maybe the worst, too, but either way, we both own a significant portion of each other. That’s not something you can just walk away from.”
from “Catherine’s Telegram” in The Letter by Richard Paul Evans, p. 247
“Lord, David, you talk ‘bout love like it a hole. Somethin’ you can fall in and out of.”
“…That ain’t love at all, just squirrel fever. Just a storm of emotions…. Man sees a pretty skirt and calls it love. Most women folk ain’t much smarter. Give more credence to butterflies than friendship. Real love ain’t that way. It’s more like a tree or plant or somethin’.”
“How is that?”
“Grows if you take mind of it. But it takes work and sacrifices. No one stand back of a neglected tree and watch it die and say, ‘Guess that tree just ain’t suppose to live.’ Only a fool would talk like that. But people do it all the time with their loves.”
from “A Glass Sliver” in The Letter by Richard Paul Evans, pp. 107-8
Honesty and humility secure lasting relationships.” —Holly Stratton
Relationships were never intended to be vehicles for human happiness; rather, they were sovereignly designed to be instruments of redemption that conform us to Christ and bring glory to God.” —Holly Stratton
If it takes the wounds of a cherished friend to teach me more of my Savior, then I welcome them in spite of their pain. If it takes the wounds of a cherished friend to take me to the Cross, I welcome them as scars of God’s love upon my open hands that have been forced by grace to release their stubborn grip.
The fireworks went on for nearly half an hour, great pulsing strobes, fiery dandelions and starbursts of light brightening both sky and water. It was hard to tell which was reality and which was reflection, as if there were two displays, above and below, going on simultaneously—one in space-time, mused Max, and the other in time-space.
― Sol Luckman,
If you can’t see the sun you will be impressed with a street light. If you’ve never felt thunder and lightning you’ll be impressed with fireworks. And if you turn your back on the greatness and majesty of God you’ll fall in love with a world of shadows and short-lived pleasures.
What if you made it to the end of your life having loved only those who loved you back? Loving difficult people is a harder path of faith, but it’s also where His greatest work begins in our own heart. It’s where we begin to learn new lessons like, “getting them before they get you” doesn’t make us stronger. Or that living on the defense all the time leaves us little energy to battle what really matters. “Lord, …I am well loved by You, and I ask that You help me love others in the same way.”
Faithful are the wounds of a friend,
but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful.